February 28, 2014
I have to figure out how to tell my mom that I don’t want her there when I have top surgery. My top surgery that is a month away. I haven’t really been talking to her about top surgery stuff, but I guess she’s just been assuming that she’s going. This is a problem because we don’t have a good relationship and haven’t probably since I was a child, we just tolerate each other, and she’s really awful to me (and/or has been awful without apology) in a bunch of different ways: my abuse history, my mental health, having learning disabilities, being autistic, being gay, being trans, etc. I want top surgery to be a positive experience, so she needs to just not be there. I tolerate her and put up a front for my dad’s sake because he asked me to, but I haven’t had a big open talk with her about this stuff, and I need to. Ugh.
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